anne_nahm ([info]anne_nahm) wrote,
@ 2008-04-16 06:58:00
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Pregnaphobia
I am scared about having another baby. There is no good way to write this without being inconsiderate to people you love. Like babies. Or your friends that are trying to have babies. Or who can’t have babies. Or other moms. Or the person with whom you are going to make babies. Or your parents. Or the pope.

Sorry Pope.

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[info]breakableheart
2008-04-16 03:06 pm UTC (link)
Yes. Yes to this part "I am not that mom. I am the mom who is just recovering from the birth of my two year old right….. Now."

Even with my child turning 2 on the 30th of this month I'm not that mom. People who have kids closer than 3 years apart are INSANE!

Plus I never was that woman anyway, even before baby. I could barely pull it together to comb my hair before work, much less do nails and make-up. As a mom SHEEEEESH! Appliances and seed catalogs thrill me more than lingeree and diamonds. I'm more focused on getting sleep than looking put together. I never looked put together, not even on my best day. Ever. What is WRONG with me?

But yeah, I'd do another baby. Try to convince hubby of that when the last two years have been so flipping difficult. It won't last forever, though, and in five years we might "miss" that little person we won't have.

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[info]etinterrapax
2008-04-16 03:34 pm UTC (link)
I so totally hear you. M is 2 in May and our friends are all having their second kids, and I'm just terrified that it'll mess up my life worse than being on The Moment of Truth. I've just got it all back together with the work and school and whatnot. We're still paying for having had the first one.

And yet. Of course we want more children. We want our kids to have siblings, and to have family life. But I'm scared to death that whatever person I have managed to salvage from having the first one is going to die outright with the second one. And Nick still with his same job and his same salary and same lack of health insurance benefits, and fuel oil at $3.99/gallon. It is all, as they say in developmental circles, incompatible with life.

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[info]suzaroo
2008-04-16 10:34 pm UTC (link)
no comprendo. i would slit my wrists if i had that kind of torment going on.

i'm happy to have my man snipped and just have the one.

but apparently, you're not alone in having those feelings (from reading comments on your other blog thingie), so that must be comforting a little?

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[info]libra_verde5
2008-04-16 10:42 pm UTC (link)
You took the words right out of my mouth, Anne. I so hear you on this!

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[info]ocean_light
2008-04-17 01:10 am UTC (link)
I am right there with you. But you know what? You will be absolutely fine.

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[info]hazelmama
2008-04-17 07:39 am UTC (link)
You can do it. At least that's what I tell myself... I'm 30 weeks already and my son will be 2 in July... I try not to think about it but hopefully it won't all come crashing down with D-day arrives...

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[info]hazelmama
2008-04-17 07:39 am UTC (link)
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